It doesn’t mean I’m religious.
Because I’m not.

It doesn’t mean I hate LGBT community.
Because I am a supporter.

It doesn’t mean I force women to give birth.
Because I never will.

Take what you want from my blog, but never assume I’m just your stereotypical  pro-lifer. It is VERY possible to ask questions, state your opinions in a civil manner on this blog. I am respectful and I enjoy answering all questions received! 

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Let me tell you some things.

I used to investigate child abuse and neglect. I can tell you how to stop the vast majority of abortion in the world.

First, make knowledge and access to contraception widely available. Start teaching kids before they hit puberty. Teach them about domestic violence and coercion, and teach them not to coerce and rape. Create a strong, loving community where women and girls feel safe and supported in times of need. Because guess what? They aren’t. You know what happens to babies born under such circumstances? They get hurt, unnecessarily. They get sick, unnecessarily. They get removed from parents who love them but who are unprepared for the burden of a child. Resources? Honey, we try. There aren’t enough resources anywhere. There are waiting lists, and promises, and maybes. If the government itself can’t hook people up, what makes you think an impoverished single mom can handle it?

Abolish poverty. Do you have any idea how much childcare costs? Daycare can cost as much or more than monthly rent. They may be inadequately staffed. Getting a private nanny is a nice idea, but they don’t come cheap either. Relatives? Do they own a car? Does the bus run at the right times? Do they have jobs of their own they need to work just to keep the lights on? Are they going to stick around until you get off you convenience store shift at 4 AM? Do they have criminal histories that will make them unsuitable as caregivers when CPS pokes around? You gonna pay for that? Who’s going to pay for that?

End rape. I know your type errs on the side of blaming the woman, but I’ve seen little girls who’ve barely gotten their periods pregnant because somebody thought raping preteens was an awesome idea. You want to put a child through that? Or someone with a mental or physical inability for whom pregnancy would be frightening, painful or even life-threatening? I’ve seen nonverbal kids who had their feet sliced up by caregivers for no fucking reason at all, you think sexual abuse doesn’t happen either?

You say there’s lots of couples who want to adopt. Kiddo, what they want to adopt are healthy white babies, preferably untainted by the wombs and genetics of women with alcohol or drug dependencies. I’ve seen the kids they don’t want, who almost no one wants. You people focus only on the happy pink babies, the gigglers, the ones who grow and grow with no trouble. Those are not the kids who linger in foster care. Those are certainly not the older kids and teenagers who age out of foster care and then are thrown out in the streets, usually with an array of medical and mental health issues. Are they too old to count?

And yeah, I’ve seen the babies, little hand-sized things barely clinging to life. There’s no glory, no wonder there. There is no wonder in a pregnant woman with five dollars to her name, so deep in depression you wonder if she’ll be alive in a week. Therapy costs money. Medicine costs money. Food, clothes, electricity cost money. Government assistance is a pittance; poverty drives women and girls into situations where they are forced to rely on people who abuse them to survive. (I’ve been up in more hospitals than I can count.)

In each and every dark pit of desperation, I have never seen a pro-lifer. I ain’t never seen them babysitting, scrubbing floors, bringing over goods, handing mom $50 bucks a month or driving her to the pediatrician. I ain’t never seen them sitting up for hours with an autistic child who screams and rages so his mother can get some sleep while she rests up from working 14-hour days. I don’t see them fixing leaks in rundown houses or playing with a kid while the police prepare to interview her about her sexual abuse. They’re not paying for the funerals of babies and children who died after birth, when they truly do become independent organisms. And the crazy thing is they think they’ve already done their job, because the child was born!

Aphids give birth, girl. It’s no miracle. You want to speak for the weak? Get off your high horse and get your hands dirty helping the poor, the isolated, the ill and mentally ill women and mothers and their children who already breathe the dirty air. You are doing nothing, absolutely nothing, for children. You don’t have a flea’s comprehension of injustice. You are not doing shit for life until you get in there and fight that darkness. Until you understand that abortion is salvation in a world like ours. Does that sound too hard? Do you really think suffering post-birth is more permissible, less worthy of outrage?

“Pro-life” is simply a philosophy in which the only life worth saving is the one that can be saved by punishing a woman.

(via gracklesong)

Women Who Fuck Like Men: An Essay Concering the Creampie

And How It Relates To The Goals Of The Feminist Movement
Joel Straley

I declare that women, or as more often is the case, female adult-film stars, who partake in the act of receiving male ejaculate inside their vagina, in what is known in pornography as a “creampie”, are dramatically pushing forward the ideals of feminism. What is supposed to be a pornographic niche is exposing new ways women are taking control of their bodies.

It can be said that this has occurred throughout all of history, even though it has only been made relatively safe within the last century. However it is now a popular part of a specific form of entertainment, which means once it becomes a more popular topic of discussion it will be closer to reaching broader acceptance in society at large.

This is, of course, when viewing this act as nothing more than a form of pleasure. I can imagine many women reading that line and asking themselves “how exactly are they deriving pleasure from this?”. Well, I don’t know what pleasure women get from having a penis in their mouth either, but a lot claim that they do and I’m not about to dispute it. Either that or my whole life has been a lie. I digress.

In this case I am defining feminism as the ideology that encourages the breaking down of gender barriers and allows more equality between men and women in a societal view. To make more clear, allow me to break down the conventional views of both genders reproductive organs and how this interplays with the societal view of the sexual phenomena of “the creampie”.

A creampie being a pornographic term for the act that fetishizes the most basic human interaction that causes procreation to the point that it is considered obscene and graphic.

While almost a majority of males arrogantly take pride in their reproductive organs, from displaying them in cartoon forms everywhere they can to bragging about their size to occasionally being an extension of their ego, an almost equal majority of females often feel shame regarding their reproductive organs until coming to terms with their vagina.

I would imagine that women feel pride more in the purpose of their organ in relation to child birth than it as an organ for pleasure. In the case of men they almost never regard their penis as a “source of future human life”.

There is seldom a ‘coming to terms with’ period when males adjust to their gender (This can be seen in Freud’s theory of Penis envy by young girls). This is something that as time moves on is being more confronted and more discouraged. This explains the overwhelming success of forums such as The Vagina Monologues that openly confront female issues concerning what is often a shame that is unnecessarily attached to the vagina.

In my opinion, I would suggest it has to do with the form of the object and how it relates to the concept that our minds created for it. In other words, since the concept of the ‘vagina’ carries such weight in the human mind, there is a gap in confronting the realities that it is nothing more than a dividend between the legs.

This should not be seen in anyway to demean the concept of the vagina and its overwhelmingly important role within humanity. I’m simply suggesting that our concept of the vagina is contrasted between what we know about its purpose and its physical appearance. And out of this contrast comes many of our preconceptions of it.

On the other hand, the penis is the opposite both in its perceived concept and its physical form. It is essentially the biological opposite, as instead of being a sexual organ consisting of a flesh tube with two ovaries on the inside, it is a flesh tube on the outside displayed with two testicles.

Shame is something that one can easily detach themselves from, since if one easily can detach themselves from their present state shame quickly fades. So as many women maintain a self-conscious connection to their vagina, men, more often than not, mentally detach themselves from their penis.

One of the most dramatic and extreme examples of this is in the cases of rape where a man detaches himself from his penis so far that he is in fact using it as an outside weapon. This is shown in the well-documented fact that rape is almost always about power rather than sexual gratification.

It can be seen now how women cannot obtain the same detachment to that degree, yet the act of the ‘creampie’ is pushing women in that direction. The act of rape is obviously the extreme of this, and it should be noted that detachment is in no way a negative action. A detachment for one’s reproductive organ, it can be argued, is the entire mental pre-requisite for sex and in particular sex for pleasure.

Since we all understand that the act of giving a ‘creampie’ is the essential act of creating human life this attachment to the concept of their vagina by women and detachment of the penis by men becomes even more clear. One of the main interest of feminist thought is to confront and disprove the unfair and often ignorant views that are placed upon women. One such view is that women are prudish when it comes to sexual relations. This is constantly reinforced in television, movies and virtually all areas of entertainment with the overwhelming (and fairly obvious) exception of pornography.

Anyone, male/female/ect., who has had sexual relations with any female ever can certainly claim that the enjoyment was reciprocal with all parties regardless of gender. Women who are more comfortable with their bodies as a whole, and having less shame and more pride about their vagina tend to be more open about engaging in sex. This is not to suggest that it causes an increase of promiscuity, which would clearly be based on other, and at this point in the discussion; irrelevant, variables.

One obvious reason that such a stereotype and misconception exist is based on an obvious truth. This truth is the fact that any time a women has sexual intercourse with a man she runs the risk of carrying this mans child, even with protection. In unprotected conditions a “creampie” is the clearest path to this predicament, as everyone knows, but not to downplay the act of conception. The case of a man leaving a women to carry the child alone are vast and beyond the point of even being a shocking statistic anymore. This only further reinforces the male detachment from what is caused by his penis and the strong attachment that is inherent in the females concept of her vagina.

Creampies are generally practiced with caution and concern and are probably thought of by many as nothing more than an appeal to a specific fetish demographic within pornography. While not necessarily removed from all shame in regards to their body, pornographic actresses are clearly less self-conscious about exposing and utilizing their bodies in such a way. It is arguable amongst feminist on whether pornography is championing or degrading women.

However the feminist movement prides itself on supporting reproductive rights for women and supporting technology that expands it such as the birth control pill and safe medical procedures like abortion. The existence of these achievements for women that are praised by the feminist movement is exactly what the phenomenon of the ‘creampie’ is reliant upon. This is pleasurable, not procreative, sex and the right to the enjoyment of the body fully utilizing these achievements. It is in a way a logical progression whether it is viewed as such in society or not.

When Margaret Sanger was fighting for the right and acceptance of birth control in our society I’m sure the act of pornographic ‘creampies’ wasn’t what she had in mind, yet I would argue that if she had given it some thought I doubt she would be against it. It has allowed women to, in a sense, triumph over nature for what can be viewed as simply a bizarre fetish.

While methods of safe sex allowed women to move forward in a grounded and scientific sense, this pornographic niche is allowing women to move forward in a broader conceptual sense, which many will agree is the ultimate goal of feminism anyway with its support for openness towards gender and sexuality.

When women begin to fuck as openly and indiscriminately with their bodies as men often do, and I mean this in many different degrees, then they shall truly be more able to openly express and accept themselves and their bodies without shame.

It should be noted that the author does not consider himself to be a feminist and has never owned a “This is what a feminist looks like” shirt, however he does own a “I Heart Boobs” shirt to support Breast Cancer awareness.